Staying Calm You met with your lover and had a wonderful time. You’re still on Cloud 9 when you walk through your door. Then you hear, “Where were you?” There’s no reason to panic, choke up, or lose your buzz. Keep in mind most people ask questions just to talk, not to really get information. Simply say whatever you had planned to say that day, whether it’s the shopping excuse, or the gym answer, or the traffic retort. Then immediately ask if your spouse wants a snack. By the time you start serving something scrumptious, they will have forgotten about where you were, or that they even asked. Read the book for more.