Getting Ready Start using a body cream, aftershave, perfume or cologne that’s a little stronger than the one you usually use. A good body cream will keep you safe from any odors, natural as they are. • If you don’t want to put creams in sensitive areas, try some hair conditioner or baby oil after your shower. They have pleasant fragrances and will be less likely to cause an irritation. • Get those plastic travel bottles that are small but seal well. Fill them with lubricant or cream. One can hold toothpaste or mouth wash. Keep a pack of wet ones in the car or carry a small pack in your bag. Your best bet is to have a small bag with all these items at work. This way you can freshen up before a rendezvous if it’s after work hours. There are showers or Jacuzzis in the day-use place but at least you’ll come in smelling like a rose. Read the book for more.
Safety First Picking out a piece of toast from the toaster with a fork may kill you. Having sex without a condom will kill you. As you plan your affair with your soon-to-be lover, the first thing to talk about is having safe sex. If you’re too embarrassed to bring up the subject of safe sex, condoms and AIDS tests, then you’re not ready to have an affair. When you have an affair, you need to be in control of your health, your body, and your expectations. Read the book for more.
Coffee table books are meant to generate interesting conversation. This wonderful book will surely do that. I recommend it highly.
My friend started going to the gym several times a week out of necessity. He usually ate dinner with his lover – whether it was an actual meal in her apartment or the cookies and coffee that came with the day-use room. When he came home in the evening, his family of course expected him to eat dinner with them too. The pounds began to show! While he used the gym as an excuse to get out of the house, he also used it to lose the extra weight.
If your affair turns into a legitimate relationship, the two of you have to seriously talk about the future and figure out if you both are willing to split up your families. At this point, there is a lot at stake and you both must think long and hard about it. You and your lover must go to a lawyer together and get advice. It’s imperative your lover comes with you. If they aren’t willing to go now, they won’t ever make a real commitment to you any time later on. You need to make sure your lover is, at all times, just as serious as you are about where your relationship is going, if you plan on ending your marriage.
Questions for You, Questions About Your Lover What do you expect from this affair? Friendship? That’s possible. Sex. For sure! Love? Not likely. A life together? That’s an unrealistic dream. How does your lover handle this affair? Are they responsible at keeping secrets and having safe sex? Are they considerate and kind to you or do they only care about sex? Do they understand this could never go farther than an affair and anything more would only put you both in harm’s way? Read the book for more.
This book would of come in handy when I was caught dating a married man by his wife. I bought a copy for my current lover so his wife doesn’t find out that he has a gay lover.
A friend actually got her car stuck in a sand trap, trying to use an unexplored shortcut when coming home from a secret afternoon of passion. Luckily some truckers came along and hauled the car out. If they hadn’t come along, it would have taken the AAA forever to get there. Sheer luck kept my friend from getting found out.
Women will wear full make-up more often now and should start wearing make-up every day, even when at home. If someone notices and asks why you’re wearing it, smile and ask if it looks good. Laugh and feel pretty. Let your make-up become part of your everyday life, without making a fuss about it, and no one will notice it later on. This way when you get all dolled up to meet your lover, you won’t look different than on the days when you’re not planning a date. Plus, good make-up can cover any unwanted love bites you may get during passionate love-making. Of course, you will make sure that your lover does not leave any marks, and you will speak to them about it.
You need to make time for an affair. Your family knows your routine. They know when you leave in the morning and when you come home at night. Without making a point of it, start changing your schedule slowly to build up your credibility. Be honest in your answers! Don’t lie because there is no need to lie. Get used to answering calmly and to the point. There is no reason to be nervous because you are not lying!