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Wedding ring.

Don’t take your wedding ring off before your rendezvous. Make believe it’s not there. One day you’ll forget to put it back on and that will only hurt your spouse and possibly your children when they see you’re not wearing it. Your lover doesn’t care if you have a ring on your finger or in your nose. Just leave it on and forget it.

Where were you?

Staying Calm You met with your lover and had a wonderful time. You’re still on Cloud 9 when you walk through your door. Then you hear, “Where were you?” There’s no reason to panic, choke up, or lose your buzz. Keep in mind most people ask questions just to talk, not to really get information. Simply say whatever you had planned to say that day, whether it’s the shop­ping excuse, or the gym answer, or the traffic retort. Then immediately ask if your spouse wants a snack. By the time you start serving something scrumptious, they will have forgotten about where you were, or that they even asked. Read the book for more.

“Where Were You?”

Staying Calm You met with your lover and had a wonderful time. You’re still on Cloud 9 when you walk through your door. Then you hear, “Where were you?” There’s no reason to panic, choke up, or lose your buzz. Keep in mind most people ask questions just to talk, not to really get information. Simply say whatever you had planned to say that day, whether it’s the shop­ping excuse, or the gym answer, or the traffic retort. Then immediately ask if your spouse wants a snack. By the time you start serving something scrumptious, they will have forgotten about where you were, or that they even asked. Read the book for more.

True Story

The barrage of investigation shows on television gave a friend a very clever idea. She advised her lover to never buy condoms or sex toys near their secret meeting place. There was a large mall just nearby, which was their individual excuses for being in that area. She realized that, should some­one check up on them, any detective would find out that each had bought clothes or house wares, but never something intimate.

Accessibility – Lose It

Your family knows they can always get in touch with you at any time through your cell phone. Start chang­ing that right away! Get out of the habit of answering the phone the moment it rings. Get caller ID on every phone you own, and if possible, on your work phone. When you see your better half is calling, don’t pick up and don’t call back for 10 minutes. Next time wait 20 minutes. But don’t answer any other calls either. You can’t take the chance that a family friend will say they spoke to you when you plan to tell your spouse you weren’t near the phone. Read the book for more.

The Long and the Short of It

One-night stands or a handful of convenient trysts are considered short term affairs. During a short-term affair, don’t feel obligated to fill in your new compan­ion about the details of your life, which include your full name, address, profession, family, etc. There is no reason for them to know so much personal informa­tion. Many tend to even lie at this stage simply due to safety precautions or to round out the fantasy. If you do make things up, keep it simple and easy to remem­ber in case you decide to meet up again. Read the book for more.

Two People Can Keep A Secret If One of Them Is Dead

No, You Cannot Tell! Never tell anyone about your affair. The moment someone else finds out about it, you’ll be in danger of losing it all. It’s only normal to want to share the excitement, sing your lover’s praises and gloat about their sexual prow­ess but you can’t. Instead, talk to yourself when you drive. Write their name on the water when you bathe. You can smile that secret sated smile when you’re with friends, but you can only own up by saying you’re happy with your life, your work, or your dog learned a new trick. Read the book for more.