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My friend started going to the gym several times a week out of necessity. He usually ate dinner with his lover – whether it was an actual meal in her apartment or the cookies and coffee that came with the day-use room. When he came home in the evening, his family of course expected him to eat dinner with them too. The pounds began to show! While he used the gym as an excuse to get out of the house, he also used it to lose the extra weight.

Legitmate Relationship

If your affair turns into a legitimate relationship, the two of you have to seriously talk about the future and figure out if you both are willing to split up your fami­lies. At this point, there is a lot at stake and you both must think long and hard about it. You and your lover must go to a lawyer together and get advice. It’s imperative your lover comes with you. If they aren’t willing to go now, they won’t ever make a real commitment to you any time later on. You need to make sure your lover is, at all times, just as serious as you are about where your relationship is going, if you plan on ending your marriage.

Where’s This Thing Going?

Questions for You, Questions About Your Lover What do you expect from this affair? Friendship? That’s possible. Sex. For sure! Love? Not likely. A life together? That’s an unrealistic dream. How does your lover handle this affair? Are they responsible at keeping secrets and having safe sex? Are they considerate and kind to you or do they only care about sex? Do they understand this could never go farther than an affair and anything more would only put you both in harm’s way? Read the book for more.

Looking Good

Women will wear full make-up more often now and should start wearing make-up every day, even when at home. If someone notices and asks why you’re wearing it, smile and ask if it looks good. Laugh and feel pretty. Let your make-up become part of your everyday life, without making a fuss about it, and no one will notice it later on. This way when you get all dolled up to meet your lover, you won’t look different than on the days when you’re not planning a date. Plus, good make-up can cover any unwanted love bites you may get during passionate love-making. Of course, you will make sure that your lover does not leave any marks, and you will speak to them about it.

Ground Work

You need to make time for an affair. Your family knows your routine. They know when you leave in the morning and when you come home at night. Without making a point of it, start changing your schedule slowly to build up your credibility. Be honest in your answers! Don’t lie because there is no need to lie. Get used to answering calmly and to the point. There is no reason to be nervous because you are not lying!

Pick up Your Toys

Your lover may introduce you, or you may introduce your lover, to sex toys. Do your best not to take these toys home with you, especially if you have small chil­dren in the house. They find everything! If you must bring them home, it’s imperative you locate a spot where you’re sure no one can ever find them. No, the top shelf of your closet is not a good idea. Kids climb up on chairs. The garage isn’t a good place either. You know your house. Find the safest place!

Keep Things Normal

What Comes First You may feel guilty about your passionate hours away from home and have a compulsion to “make up for lost time” with the family. Take it easy. There’s no need to overcompensate. Take this quick test. If you don’t answer YES to all of the following, you need to think again about having an affair and reprioritize your focus and activities. • Do you always make sure that the family comes first? • Do you and your lover accept the fact that either of you may have to go home sooner, or may suddenly call off a rendezvous altogether, because you are needed at home? • You try not to overcompensate the kids with extra toys or paint their bedroom to show you care. Read the book for more.