The barrage of investigation shows on television gave a friend a very clever idea. She advised her lover to never buy condoms or sex toys near their secret meeting place. There was a large mall just nearby, which was their individual excuses for being in that area. She realized that, should someone check up on them, any detective would find out that each had bought clothes or house wares, but never something intimate.
Your family knows they can always get in touch with you at any time through your cell phone. Start changing that right away! Get out of the habit of answering the phone the moment it rings. Get caller ID on every phone you own, and if possible, on your work phone. When you see your better half is calling, don’t pick up and don’t call back for 10 minutes. Next time wait 20 minutes. But don’t answer any other calls either. You can’t take the chance that a family friend will say they spoke to you when you plan to tell your spouse you weren’t near the phone. Read the book for more.
One-night stands or a handful of convenient trysts are considered short term affairs. During a short-term affair, don’t feel obligated to fill in your new companion about the details of your life, which include your full name, address, profession, family, etc. There is no reason for them to know so much personal information. Many tend to even lie at this stage simply due to safety precautions or to round out the fantasy. If you do make things up, keep it simple and easy to remember in case you decide to meet up again. Read the book for more.
No, You Cannot Tell! Never tell anyone about your affair. The moment someone else finds out about it, you’ll be in danger of losing it all. It’s only normal to want to share the excitement, sing your lover’s praises and gloat about their sexual prowess but you can’t. Instead, talk to yourself when you drive. Write their name on the water when you bathe. You can smile that secret sated smile when you’re with friends, but you can only own up by saying you’re happy with your life, your work, or your dog learned a new trick. Read the book for more.