Safety First Picking out a piece of toast from the toaster with a fork may kill you. Having sex without a condom will kill you. As you plan your affair with your soon-to-be lover, the first thing to talk about is having safe sex. If you’re too embarrassed to bring up the subject of safe sex, condoms and AIDS tests, then you’re not ready to have an affair. When you have an affair, you need to be in control of your health, your body, and your expectations. Read the book for more.