My friend started going to the gym several times a week out of necessity. He usually ate dinner with his lover – whether it was an actual meal in her apartment or the cookies and coffee that came with the day-use room. When he came home in the evening, his family of course expected him to eat dinner with them too. The pounds began to show! While he used the gym as an excuse to get out of the house, he also used it to lose the extra weight.
If your affair turns into a legitimate relationship, the two of you have to seriously talk about the future and figure out if you both are willing to split up your families. At this point, there is a lot at stake and you both must think long and hard about it. You and your lover must go to a lawyer together and get advice. It’s imperative your lover comes with you. If they aren’t willing to go now, they won’t ever make a real commitment to you any time later on. You need to make sure your lover is, at all times, just as serious as you are about where your relationship is going, if you plan on ending your marriage.
Questions for You, Questions About Your Lover What do you expect from this affair? Friendship? That’s possible. Sex. For sure! Love? Not likely. A life together? That’s an unrealistic dream. How does your lover handle this affair? Are they responsible at keeping secrets and having safe sex? Are they considerate and kind to you or do they only care about sex? Do they understand this could never go farther than an affair and anything more would only put you both in harm’s way? Read the book for more.